有各种各样的人类情感和经验。我们每个人都不可避免地会感觉到愉悦，具有挑战性，积极和困难的情绪的混合，并感觉到反应的范围是自然而健康的。
当当然要充满挑战时，我们想以韧性和乐观的态度做出回应，但有时我们会感到不知所措，悲伤或痛苦。当事情变得艰难时，我们会努力前进时会发生什么，我们告诉自己我们应该能够“发光”？朋友中有任何伤害说：“看着光明的一面”或健康从业者that pushes clients to have an “abundance mindset”?
What is Toxic Positivity?
Toxic positivity is using the tools, tactics, and techniques of positivity to deny, reject, or mask the challenging parts of the human experience. This can be done to yourself, like through positive affirmations that feel ingenuine, or between people, like struggling with mental health and your friends telling you to “just be positive”.
对自己和他人有积极的看法是善意的。我们都想快乐，为那些人，我们喜欢做得好。但是，当某人在艰难的情绪中挣扎时，过于积极的情绪会感到不屑一顾，浅薄的，就像一种拒绝形式。它否认了我们人类经验的全部范围，并用阳性的虚假饰面代替了它。
Toxic Positivity Examples
It’s not uncommon for those working in the健康，健康或心理健康空间，要遇到或无意间产生有毒的积极性。当我们这样做时，它会给我们自己和他人造成一些重大问题：
• Invalidates the experiences, interpretation, or emotional reaction of the person struggling.
• Undermines autonomy, making that person feel less in control of themselves.
• Creates doubt in that person’s intuition and emotional interpretation.
• Teaches that person to suppress their emotional reactions, therefore, minimizing processing, learning, and healthy coping strategies.
• Ignores real problems, sometimes worsening them.
•这可能导致的感觉羞耻,内疚,和emotional manipulation.
您可能已经在考虑自己的生活中的例子。正是自助名人鼓励您通过重复“一切都是有原因发生”或“我是我最好的自我”之类的肯定，即使他们感到空洞或不真实，也是如此。
通常，这些类型的练习都会像重复重复一样最终使它们成为真实，从而最大程度地减少了自我知识和成长的真实工作。Perhaps you’ve had a parent, elder, or mentor who you’ve gone to with a problem, and they’ve responded that “it’s not so bad”, “you should be grateful for all you have”, or “suck it up and you’ll be fine”. If you’ve felt minimized or not validated, that’s one of the hallmarks of toxic positivity.
Toxic Positivity also shows up in fitness and wellness. Prevalent examples that have become self-help clichés are sentiments like “if I can do it, so can you”, “think positive”, “no bad days”, and “failure is not an option.” Each of these subtly diminishes an individual’s process of struggling, learning, and growing.
They undermine exploring the nuances of our emotional experiences and the information we learn from our feelings as well as the unique needs of different people on their wellness journey.
On the business side of fitness and wellness, we may encounter toxic positivity through the “rise and grind” entrepreneurial mindset. Messaging that says you can retire early if you just put out the right kind of motivating content or create the perfect passive-income programming. This culture ignores the diverse needs and circumstances within the industry and the real challenges that come with being a solopreneur.
他们被神话所取代，即通过正确的生产力黑客入侵和补品，我们可以“成功”。
避免陷入有毒阳性陷阱的方法
Avoiding toxic positivity starts with accepting that human beings sometimes suffer and struggle. We all experience loss, rejection, fear, and uncertainty. Sometimes life events will cause overwhelm, sadness, grief, and the full spectrum of human emotions. Instead of pushing away challenging emotions accept them, and allow yourself to feel, process, and integrate them. If someone is struggling to do so they can seek professional guidance and support, instead of rejecting these emotions or suppressing them with overly positive thinking.
诸如专注于优势，感恩实践，冥想，正念甚至体育锻炼之类的工具并不意味着要消除生活的经历。取而代之的是，可以作为生活和生活过程的一部分接受健康和健身工具。
如何成为健康教练的有毒积极性
为了避免有毒阳性健康coach, start by validating your client’s struggles and challenges. When they share that something is difficult or overwhelming reflect on their experience in a way that helps them explore their emotions, examine any associated beliefs, and guide them to recognize the reality of the circumstances, beliefs, or limitations they may be experiencing.
当出现羞耻或内gui的感觉提醒您的客户时，您没有判断他们，并在那里支持他们探索他们的健康之旅。如果您看到您的客户参与他们的有毒积极性形式，则可以允许他们挑战他们，如果他们否认自己的困难情绪。
积极的思维可以成为激励，表现和探索可能性的强大工具。但是，当它用来否认，距离或与人生的挑战隔离时，它会产生积极的毒性。
Citations:
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Ehrenreich, B. (2009). Bright-sided: How positive thinking is undermined America. Metropolitan Books.
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